Emotionally Focused Therapy has been developed by Sue Johnson, Ph.D., out of her years of working with couples from an attachment based perspective. It has grown from a theory about understanding the basis of love to an internationally practiced approach for working with couples, individuals and families seeking to improve their relationships and life. There is now a growing body of research that validates the effectiveness of this approach with outcome rates that are statistically significant.
As humans we are social beings which means that we are born with the capacity to develop strong and enduring emotional bonds with those we are close with. This begins in infancy and continues into our adult relationships. When as an adult we form a relationship with another, we become bonded to that person as someone who is accessible, responsive and present. In this partnership, each person wants to believe that the other is there for them, no matter what.
When partners seek EFT, there is often an issue about the security of their connection. Instead of feeling the presence and engagement of the other, partners are engaged in a negative cycle or dance which is often repetitive and debilitating. This cycle erodes the fundamental basis of the partnership leaving the couple feeling as if they have lost the basis of their connection. EFT aims to help the partners identify their negative cycle as well as the triggers that cause their reactivity. Each partner gains an understanding of the longings that are beneath their reactive responses. Gradually the partners begin to turn back to each other, to repair their ruptures with compassion and caring that is the basis of their connection. Through the process of this experiential therapy, couples experience each other in new positive ways which is a transformative and vitalizing experience, both in body and mind.